Lessons from Our First Month of Marriage

Good gracious, y’all! We’ve been married for one month today! I am continually in awe of God’s faithfulness as I look back upon the story He has written for us. To celebrate, today I am sharing ten lessons from our first month of marriage. This certainly is not an exhaustive list, but they are the first that came to mind. Enjoy!

lessons from our first month of marriage

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Marriage is a daily opportunity to serve one another. Every day, there are a hundred ways for Dillon and I to serve each other. Whether it be through cleaning the kitchen (which he is doing right now as I type this) or making dinner so the other can relax, there are countless ways to show love through service.

God needs to be at the center of everything we do. Without God, we can easily become impatient, selfish, and short-sighted. By prayerfully putting God at the center, our eyes are opened to His grace. In that, we can pour His grace out onto one another.

Marriage is a gift to be stewarded well. I waited for Dillon for a long time. We each prayed for each other and lived in obedience to Christ as we waited to meet one another. In that, I often remember what a gift it is that God brought us together and that we have a holy responsibility to steward that gift well.  

We love our families deeply (and miss them so!). Family is deeply important to both of us. We have continued to make time for our sweet families over this past month. This has helped ease the transition of moving out quite a bit!

Sleeping next to Dillon is a lot easier than I anticipated.  I really expected to have a hard time sleeping next to somebody else, even if he’s my husband. Fortunately, I’ve slept pretty well almost every night!

Taking care of our home involves teamwork. Cleaning the kitchen, grocery shopping, laundry, sweeping the floors, budgeting, and more. I didn’t realize how much work it would be to have our own place! We are tag teaming it though, which helps quite a bit.

We need our own space – but not too much of it! From day 1, we’ve made it a point to each have our own time each day. It’s incredibly important to have quiet time to pour into hobbies and restful activities. I’m thankful we’ve honored this!

Forming a budget is challenging but unifying.  Thanks to Dave Ramsay and his Every Dollar tool, this has been made much simpler! We are using the envelope system and it’s been a great motivator so far.

There are no burned dinners in this house!  Long gone are the stereotypes of newlyweds eating burned dinners and spaghetti every night. I have taken great delight in planning out delicious healthy meals each week, and we’re huge fans! I’m excited to share some of my favorite recipes here soon in another recipe roundup.

Always make time for adventures. Enough said. I’m so excited for lifelong adventures shared together!

Married friends, what is one of the lessons you learned in your first month of marriage? Please share below!

An Unexpected Blessing of Marriage

Marriage is beautiful. I’ve shared 2.5 weeks alongside my best friend and it has been the greatest adventure of my life. I know Dillon well, but I’ve learned him even better in these past few weeks. Early in our relationship, I fell in love with his character and ambition, his heart for others, and his complete trust in God.

I have the privilege of sharing firsthand in his joy in the best moments and am spurred on by his faith in the trials. Since day one, he has been alongside me in my joys and sorrows too. He listens to my goals and speaks truth into my fears. He strengthens me at my weakest and challenges me to be my best. Thankfully, he always leaves so much room for my dreams, too.

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Faith and vision fuel me every day. God has blessed me with beautiful, vivid dreams for my life – which is now our life together. After months of pouring ourselves into wedding and marriage prep, my creative well had started to feel dry. I was investing almost every ounce of creativity into making our day meaningful and intentional. While it was sweet and rewarding to see it all come together, I wondered when I’d get my usual measure of creativity back.

I found myself filled with so much vision since a few days after our wedding. When the excitement and exhaustion balanced itself out after our day, a refreshed vision took its place. I had always wondered what it’s like to bring your existing dreams and vision into a marriage. After all, you are taking two lives and unifying them into one. The unexpected blessing of it all is that Dillon has celebrated, spurred on, and contributed to my dreams and vision even more in marriage than before.

Dillon has his dreams too, and they are combining with my dreams to become our dreams together. Marrying him has only added to my vision. He encourages me to bring my dreams straight to God in every circumstance. My husband leaves plenty of room for my God-given vision, and for that I am so thankful!

If you are married, what unexpected blessing did you find early in marriage? Please share in the comments below –  I would be so grateful to learn from your wisdom!

Our First Week Married (Part 2)

On Monday I shared a look into the first few days after our wedding. Today I am sharing the second part of our first week married! As I explained on Monday, we are saving our honeymoon trip after taking a family vacation to Bermuda in May. While it felt a bit anticlimactic to stay in town last week, I am thankful for the way it provided us with a smooth transition to normalcy.

We spent Sunday-Tuesday soaking up as much rest as we could and living off leftovers. That sounds incredibly unglamorous as I write it, but it was Southern fare from our wedding and restaurant favorites – yum! We found a way to make pimento cheese a breakfast food by using it in an egg and cheese sandwich. Y’all, be sure to try it – and then toss on your workout clothes!

First Week Married (Part 2) - Kyla Mary

On Tuesday afternoon, we set out to clean our apartment which was so cluttered with the wedding items Dillon’s parents had dropped off on Sunday. We sifted through leftover decorations and set aside pieces to pass on to loved ones. I appreciate an orderly space, so this brought rest to my living-in-a-new-place heart! After we cleaned for a couple hours, we went out for dinner to a local favorite of ours. I have exclusively ordered the chicken pot pie at this restaurant for 10+ years but branched out with a baked seafood dish. It did not disappoint! We drove to my parents’ house after dinner to pick up a wedding gift that had been delivered there. Then it was time to head home to get a good night’s sleep before we both returned to work the next day.

Fortunately, we both go to work around noon on Wednesdays. It was delightful to have one last bit of rest before we returned to our typical responsibilities. This was the first morning where I felt rather settled in our apartment. I have found it to be incredibly helpful to start the day with my morning routine from home – lighting a candle and enjoying coffee and quiet time on the couch.

When I arrived to work that day, everyone thought I had taken the entire week off! There had been some miscommunication about my schedule, which thankfully allowed me to take Friday off. The transition back to work was so much easier knowing my work week was only two days long. I kept looking down at my rings and remembering all the goodness of the days prior.

Towards the end of my work day, one of my dear friends and bridesmaids messaged me about wanting to keep her bouquet forever. I am glad to know that others enjoyed our flowers as much as I did! I planned to preserve my bouquet but ended up tossing it this week as I saw how different it looked dried.

Thursday was much like Wednesday, with work and daily responsibilities. Friday was such a delight though! Our wedding photographer – and dear friend of mine – had us over for lunch and a sneak peek at our pictures. She did a beautiful job and it was such a treat to see them just days after our wedding!

We stopped at a mall on our way home to exchange some pieces from Pottery Barn, and then treated ourselves to crepes afterward. If you’ve never tried a savory crepe, be sure to make note to do so! Dillon had a chicken and cheese variety, and I opted for ham and cheese with honey mustard.

We picked up some fun treats at Lush after dinner – mostly free samples – and then went to Target to do a big return. Neither of us prefers to spend hours shopping, but we made each stop fun along the way! We picked up some pantry organization bins and headed home to watch The Office.

Dillon had a children’s ministry event on Saturday afternoon, but we got to share the morning together before he left. One of our new nightstands was delivered first thing on Saturday morning – but with a broken leg. Unfortunately, we have to send it back and it is sold out almost everywhere on the internet – but I found a replacement at Kohls! I planned to attend the church event but had an impromptu lunch and shopping date with my mom instead. It was so sweet to enjoy time with her after my first week of living out of my parents’ home.

When Dillon and I both returned home from the afternoon, we went on a date to our absolute favorite restaurant. In May they announced that they’re closing down at the end of June, so we are enjoying it while we can! We indulged in all three courses of dinner, getting hearty soups before our meal and sharing blueberry crisp after. It was the perfect ending to our first week married!